Well my daughter's dad is continuing to insist that we will be together one day. My heart is still with him, but I know my life is going in a different direction. I feel like there is no time to wait on someone who continues to be selfish and won't let go of the past. We do have a lot of history together and a child. Yes we are both college students, but his long terms goals are not where I thnk they should be considering he has two children. The Scenario: Him(Bee) and I dated three years before I got pregnant and seven months after impregnanting me, he get another woman (Jay) pregnant. I was informed seven months after the baby was here. Yes, I was suprised!!
Two years have passed since that happened Bee and Jay have broken up for about one year. She has moved on and just recently gotten married this past Saturday. I still believe he is still dealing with some emotions with her even after they have been broken up for a year now. Since my daughter's party is Saturday Bee insists on not coming to the party because Jay will be there. This young lady was a huge part of my daughter's life when they were dating and living together, so why not invite her to the party?
I'm still questioning my self everytime I see receive an "I Love You Natalie" text. Is he really worth it? Should you reconsider bringing him back into your life in that way? Is It Love?
I think it is cool that you can invite Jay to your daughter's party and realize that she is a part of her life. If my ex ever moves on, I would do the same. I wish he would get this concept and do what is best for our child, but he tries to punish me instead. I believe only you can decide whether Bee is worth it or not, but from the outside looking in, it isn't love and it seems to be time to move forward. Hope it all works out!
ReplyDeleteFirst, I just want to say that only you can make the decision of what is best for you and your daughter, but from what you are saying, it doesn't sound like love. It sounds like a safety net. Being with you is 'safe' and comfortable. Take a good long look at it and make sure to keep your daughter as the number one priority in the situation. Rely on what is best for her (and then, of course, you). Natalie, you have to do what you believe is best and don't let anyone else influence that. You're a smart, strong woman. You will persevere!
ReplyDeleteKeep your eyes open. You know what he's capable of, and, while he is your child's father, I'd limit his involvement to that for now. Consider what's best for you, and don't settle!
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